2023 Grief Tender Mentoring Program with Elders Thérèse Charvet and Laurence Cole supported by Mary Hart

For those already hosting grief rituals and those who aspire to do so

This mentoring program welcomes applications from people who…..

  • Have a yearning and intrinsic motivation to provide support to and walk with others in their grief journey
  • Have done their own personal grief healing journey (i.e. have attended several grief rituals/retreats), continuing to access and release personal grief as it arises
  • Demonstrate emotional health, intelligence, and maturity, having worked through one’s own personal losses and traumas
  • Have a personal spiritual practice that cultivates self knowledge around ego issues and personal patterns
  • Are experienced with holding space for groups

OVERVIEW:  This mentoring program involves participating in monthly zoom calls January through April 2023, wrapping up in an all day in- person gathering on Bainbridge Island (WA) over Memorial Day week-end. If the majority of people in the group live too far away for in-person gathering, we will host zoom calls in May and June instead.

Laurence and Therese’s specialty is group grief ritual/ceremony. They are not therapists nor grief counselors. Rather, they were blessed to learn about grief ceremonies from Sobonfu and Malidoma Some’. Malidoma and Sobonfu were from the Dagara Tribe in Burkina Faso. These two adapted their village grief rituals into a model that fit into week-end workshops for the people of Europe and North America.. They believed that many of the issues facing our culture are a result of un-processed grief.

Topics for this grief mentoring include:

  • The importance of “Agreements” for creating a vulnerable and courageous space
  • The importance of ritual for transforming grief
  • The importance of grief being witnessed 
  • The basic bones of grief rituals
  • Reflective listening as a vital skill for holding space for grief
  • Skills & Qualities needed to be a grief tender

Dates: (all gatherings will be Saturday mornings 9:30am -12:30pm pacific time):
January 21, February 18, March 11, April 22
May: a day-long in person gathering May 27 or 28 or on zoom May 13 and June 10  

Fees: $400 for the full program. “Pay-what-you-can” options available upon request.

Registration:. To join this program please click here and respond to the questions. Once we review your application, we will get back to you to let you know if we feel you are a good candidate for joining us.

More about the facilitators: Thérèse and Laurence met at a Grief Retreat in 1997, held by their mentor, the late Sobonfu Some.  They both attended many ceremonies (grief retreats and others) with her and Malidoma Some in the 1990’s and 2000’s. Therese began offering Grief Rituals through Sacred Groves in 2002, with the blessing of Sobonfu and always in honor and acknowledgement of the teachings she shared from the Dagara Culture (in Burkina Faso). Laurence joined the team in 2008. Mary Hart joined the team in 2016.

Read more about Therese here.

Laurence Cole, a song elder and ritualist from Port Townsend, Washington, has a gift of helping groups of people rediscover the healing power of grieving communally, bringing his special gift of group singing to everything he leads .  Guided and inspired by the teachings of Malidoma Somé, Sobonfu Somé, Angeles Arrien, Michael Meade, James Hillman, Francis Weller,, Joanna Macy and many others, Laurence creates a safe and brave, non-judgmental space for folks to rediscover their natural human capacity for healing together.

Mary Hart: brings her commitment to authenticity, vulnerability and transformation to the team. She is trained in Internal Family Systems therapy, Hakomi therapy, workshop facilitation, The Wheel of Consent and is a personal coach.  After many years of her own personal work, she was introduced to Grief Ritual with Therese Charvet, Tere Carranza and Laurence Cole in 2014 and began to mentor in 2016.  Since then, she has helped to create and facilitate many healing rituals. She has sought and studied with many great teachers and has been inspired by the work of Sobonfu Some, Richard Schwartz, Krishna Das, Stephen Levine, Jon Kabbat Zin, Francis Weller, and many others.